Can men and women be “Just friends”?

I’m sure a lot of you are automatically answering “NO”! Because either one (or both) will always end up wanting more.
But I’m going to say “YES, yes they can”!

Of course a lot things must be considered when approaching this topic, it can’t just be a simple yes or no answer because nothing really is a simple yes or no answer when you think about it. It really comes down to a series of questions you must answer about the man and woman in question, before you can give your final honest answer.

Some questions you might want to consider are:

How long have you known each other?
If you have known each other for longer than say 1 year and neither of you have ever hinted at getting together, then it’s safe to say it’s a friend’s only zone. Cause lets face it, no one really waits up to a year without making any kind of move.

Do you discuss your dates with each other?
If you feel comfortable discussing last night’s date with him or her, and they do the same with you and neither of you feel any jealousy, then that’s another sure sign of the friend’s only zone. Facial expressions often speak louder than words, so if you can tell you’re making your ‘friend’ uncomfortable with your date details, then you’re in trouble. Even their replies will tell you where they stand. If they reply in short blunt sentences, then you’re also in trouble but if they ask a lot of questions and show genuine interest, then you’re safe being just friends (if that’s what you want of course).

How do you introduce each other to people?
If both of you find it so natural and easy to just say “This is my friend so and so”, without any hesitation or awkwardness of looking at each other, wondering how you should approach this answer, then you’re both in a friends zone and happy to be there.

When you tell each other everything that’s going on in your lives, like you would to any of your same sex friends; end up celebrating each other’s wedding and attending their kid’s birthday parties, then you’ve definitely found a friend in him or her.

How do I know this? Because my best friend (and only friend) is a male.
We have known each other for approximately 23 years, have always told each other everything, worked together at one point and have celebrating each other’s weddings and his kid’s birthdays.

I find having a male best friend is so much better than a female. Females are too bitchy and judgemental, not to mention the foundation of a female friendship is usually based on gossip. Males on the other hand (one’s that I’ve known anyway) are more down to earth and easy going.

Neither of us have ever felt anything slightly romantic for the other, which made our friendship all the more easier.

So, now having read this – which zone do you think you’re in?

Melzy

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